dearSomeone had a great blog idea to write a letter to our younger selves. I struggled trying to figure out the best way to write this, and realized I would never be able to complete the task. Even though I know my younger self would never read this letter, I am happy with my life as it has turned out and maybe this advice would have changed my course (silly I know). So instead I wrote a note to all young ladies out there with some advice. I hope this helps you.

Hello Ladies,

I am writing to you as someone who has been there and dealt with many issues you are dealing with. While I am not trying to tell you how to live your life, I hope you find this helpful! Below are some words of wisdom and some overall advice to help out along your journey:

  • You do not need to know everything now. Where you want to live or what you want to be when you grow up will change as your grow up – and that is ok! Honestly, you probably will never know everything and that is ok too.
  • You need to give yourself a break. Don’t be so hard on yourself because everyone stumbles and makes mistakes. It’s how you handle the mistakes that defines you.
  • Class work is important, but it’s not the only thing that’s important. I remember freshman year I was sitting in Calculus and my teacher said  one the most important things I have heard. She explained that most of us would never use calculus in our daily lives or future jobs, which is very un-teacher like! But then she went on to say that the problem solving was the important thing to take away. That always stuck with me and honestly, she was right! Sometimes it isn’t the exact subject matter that’s important, it’s the overall picture or skill you have learned.
  • Never stay in a place or give up your future for a guy (or girl).
  • High school is tough for most people. People struggle to fit in, and develop (good) friendships. Getting older and going to college or moving away is a great experience because you get to find out more about yourself and who you want your friends to be. Hang in there, it gets better!
  • That being said, there is always someone going through something worse than you. Empathy and giving back are really important. Not only does it help others out and make you feel better, it gives you a better perspective on the world. Be kind – everyone is fighting a tough battle.

Just remember you will get through this!

Best of luck on your future,

Becky